I am someone who prides themselves on not being one of those typical “OMG, I WANT TO BE IN LOVE SO BADLY” people. I really hate those who put their relationships on blast all of my News Feed. I hate seeing sappy wall posts on each other’s Timelines/Walls. I hate those who don’t know how to be single for long periods of time because they MUST have someone to cuddle with. I find looking for the right person to be a huge waste of time.
…despite all of this, I am a hopeless romantic.
After countless failed dates/crushes/potentials (I don’t refer to any of the guys as “love interests,” because I’m very cautious about how I use that word), I find it impossible to date. Maybe I’m too much to handle (which I doubt) or maybe it’s because I don’t tolerate shit (and I don’t), but deep inside, my vunerability shines through when I really have an interest in someone.
I want to talk to them every day and I want to know more about them. I’ll stay up all hours of the night to talk to them and I’ll smile when I see them online.
…what the fuck is wrong with me? I disgust myself in saying all of that crap.
I’ve been rejected more times than I can count and it’s gotten to the point that I REALLY can’t talk to ANY guy without looking like a total loser. In fact, I get super awkward and strange when I’m around crushes. It’s like I become an alternate version of myself who doesn’t know how to talk…when I know how to talk…EXCESSIVELY.
Be that as it may, I want a cute guy to say they’re into me. I want to date again…but I think the damage is done.
So, I will continue to be strong, single, and independent.
Just Another Ranting Sunday -- Episode 2.2 | Why is it such a big deal that I want to be single?
(I got to this week’s rant a bit too late, so I’m going to recycle one of my recent rants from Facebook, which I wrote on January 9th, 2012.)
Something that’s been bugging me a lot recently is the fact that people think I should just date after I decided a year ago not to date at all. What business of it is yours that I don’t want to date? Why do you feel bad for me when I say I’ve never had a boyfriend? Maybe I’m happy with just hanging with my friends and drinking with amazing people. Maybe I’m happy just meeting new gay guys to just be friends with (because gay friends are a hot commodity in New York City). After 10 years of trying to find the right guy and only coming up empty-handed, why should I NOT be able to opt out of the whole thing?
I never understood why we should feel bad for people who aren’t in relationships or haven’t found the right person yet. I’ve been guilty of it too, but seriously? Why should I feel bad for you? Why should you feel bad for me? If 40+ guys have not seen me as dateable (or if I haven’t seen them as dateable), then that’s their problem. I’m flawed. This much is true. However, you’re flawed too. We’re all flawed and as soon as we accept it as fact, we’ll have a higher chance of attaining a better sense of self, not from our significant other, but from ourselves.
I think people put relationships on some sort of crazy pedestal because our mindset is so set in the sense that we’re in absolute need of someone to tell us we’re beautiful and hold us like everything’s going to be okay. However, who dictated that it needed to be so? Is it imperative that we have arm candy or someone to feed us our own food? It’s really quite unneeded. People need to learn to be a bit more self-sufficient in their needs. I’m not saying it happens all at once, but it should be second nature to know how to live life without a significant other.
Honestly, I laugh at those who don’t know how stay single once they end a relationship. I think to myself, “Can’t you just let the ink dry for a few months or a year on your previous relationship before you jump into the arms of other person who might just end up failing you because you’re just on the rebound?” My sister, for example, is fresh out of an 8 year relationship with her ex and was already cuddling in her bed with some new guy just weeks after the fact (I refer to him as the “psuedo boyfriend,” because my sister is not officially exclusively with him…according to her). I thought to myself, “Seriously? 8 years and you’re already with some other guy? That’s just insane.”
You can’t just jump into a relationship with someone while still recuperating from the previous one. You can’t wipe the slate clean on a relationship and immediately jump into another one. It’s rather disastrous and it will not end well when it does end…and it WILL end. One thing I’ve noticed about quick and sudden relationships is that after a while, the thrill of a new romance will die down as quickly as it started. You’ll get bored of them or annoyed at their existence and you’ll move on to someone else. If that’s the case, what’s the whole point of jumping into relationship after relationship without anything solid and concrete? Where’s the courtship period? Did you guys even get to know one another BEFORE you both start dating? I don’t feel it’s logical to date someone you barely know after only knowing each other for a short period of time. There has to be some time in getting to know each other. A month seems illogical. 2 months seems a bit more reasonable. 3 months would be absolutely perfect.
I think what people forget when dating is that no one is going to fall in love with you as soon as you have the first date. You’re not obligated to do anything. What you’re obligated to do is to feel that person out and see if there will be repeat dates in the future. You’re obligated to go into the courtship period with no hope that there will be a future. It’s this hope that will cause you not to be disappointed if it doesn’t work out. If any of the dates I’ve been on in the past are any indication, it’s that it’s good to be pretty cynical. It may be a turn off to that person if they can read it, but at least you know you’re wise to the game and you already know what’s up.
After 10 years and no relationships to talk about and tons of guys and stories of their crazy, I think I’ve gotten desensitized to dating. Dating is not something I want to do and I think people hype it up way too much. I think it’s better that you respect my decision instead of depressing me to death that I need to be with someone. I’m around a lot of couples these days, yes. However, it’s not my thing to feel that because I’m surrounded by it, that it’s high time I settle down.
I’m very hesitant around new people and people I already know, but don’t feel comfortable with completely. I’m usually pretty outgoing around people, but when it comes to people I just meet, I hold myself back a little. I’m even worse around people I know and just don’t feel like I can be myself around without being analyzed by those people because I’m in a social circle that isn’t as wild as I get.
I’m extremely apologetic when I’m around these people and saying, “I’m sorry if I’m bothering you” is common for me to say in such situations. I’m really self-conscious and I get really nervous to the point that I think in circles and I stay really quiet. It’s very uncharacteristic of me for those who’ve known me for a while, but this does happen.
I think this is a carry-over from when I was a kid and I was constantly teased by just about everyone throughout grammar school.
So, there was this Korean guy I liked back in 2009. He was really nice and he was the first person to ever take me to the High Line. I had told him I liked him and he said, “Let me get to know you better.” I agreed that that would be best and a week later, I check his Facebook to see that he’s in a relationship with someone else. When I congratulated him for it, he rubbed it in my face and I cut him off immediately.
I say this all to say that I randomly saw his pictures on my Dashboard and realized that he got even MORE attractive since then. He used to be pin-thin with long hair and looked pretty girly, but now he’s really manly looking and he’s ripped as fuck.
Me? I gained 20 pounds by the middle of 2010. I lost 10 pounds since, but I’m still disgusted with my body.
…I MUST join a gym. I cannot be upstaged by this guy. I REFUSE.
When I’m in a bad mood or whenever I want to sing offkey, I go to karaoke.
A lot of my friends here in New York are luckily big karaoke nerds too. Whenever I get them together, we go pretty hard. We’ll stay for 7 hours during the day and we’ll still have a lot of songs we wanted to sing.
Karaoke is probably one of the things I do to relieve my stress from all the crap I’ve been through. It makes me happy to sing out my frustrations. :D
LOCATION: 36-45 Main Street (between 37th Avenue and Northern Boulevard) WEBSITE: http://www.placeatmain.com/ NEAREST TRAIN STATION: 7 - Main Street - Flushing (FINAL STOP) SCENE: Asian; Karaoke COST: $$ ATMOSPHERE: ***** OVERALL: ****
I started going to P@M a few months ago with a newfound friend of mine who loves to frequent this place. Because of her, I’ve sort of become a regular at this bar and I really like coming back. While it’s way out of my way as I live in Staten Island and Flushing is deep in Queens to the point that you’re almost touching Long Island, I like the very chill atmosphere of the place. You walk in and it’s almost always not insane. Then again, you’re in Flushing (which is the Queens version of Chinatown), so how bad could this place really get…unless you’re with my friends, but that’s an aside.
Firstly, I enjoy that karaoke is free in the lounge. The lounge is a lot cheaper than booking a room. As with most places in the 5 boroughs, this particular location is pretty expensive in booking rooms. They charge by the hour and has three price brackets: $40, $60, and $100. It would be cheaper to get a bunch of people and split it, but when you drink on top of that, you start to feel the need to budget your money. Hence, I suggest just hanging out in the lounge.
The lounge (pictured above) is actually always pretty quiet on weekdays and you get to talk to the bartenders, who are really nice. I even get to talk to the busboy, who is also quite friendly.
Now, you might be curious as to why I rated this place two dollar signs. As you know, I rate places by their Long Island Iced Tea prices. While their Long Islands are actually the normal 10-dollar price, you find that their prices for everything else are also pretty steep. Since I’m a pretty heavy drinker, I usually get a SoCo-Lime shot also, which costs $9. Some of the drinks are actually in range of 8 to 10 dollars unless you get a beer, which is about 6 dollars. So, I wouldn’t recommend going to this place if you like to pregame heavily.
However, what they lack for in their drink charges, they make up for in their charm. Aside from the staff and their relaxing lounge, I also like their rooftop terrace. For smokers, this is most ideal for anyone who wants to smoke without actually having to leave the lounge itself. Since this is a state that has banned smoking in bars and restaurants, I’d say the rooftop terrace is a very good compromise.
With all of this factored in, Place @ Main has become a hideaway from the Manhattan hustle and bustle in favor of a more chill spot for those who don’t want to leave Queens. While I find that the drinks could be a bit more reasonable, considering that this isn’t Manhattan, I do like coming back and seeing familiar faces, as well as meeting new people. This is definitely the sort of place you’ll be able to become acquainted with a bunch of great people and I have a lot of stories of the interesting conversations I’ve had with a lot of the patrons here.
Thirsty Thursday got me thirsty for a late night beverage, so I put on PJ pants (I was wearing shorts), my babushka hat (you know…that hat with the fur? I dunno what it’s actually called), my peacoat and got ready to walk to the deli down the street from my house.
My stepfather noticed I was leaving and asked me where I was going, so I told him. He gave me 10 bucks and told him to get him something too. Came back with a 2 liter Nestea for him and 4 Snapples for me.
I love saving my money. :D
PS: I will get around to the ACTUAL Thirsty Thursday post. I’m just a bit too tired to write it right now.
My birthday is May 3rd, 1986, so I am 25 years old (going on 26) and I’m probably one of the oldest people on Tumblr.
…no, seriously. There are so many damn 90s-born kids on this site that I feel like a statutory rapist. D:
So, my zodiac signs are in the west, Taurus (the bull) and in the east, I was born in the year of the tiger.
It’s funny, because I’m two of the strongest animals, but yet when you read the personality traits of both signs, they’re the most sensitive and stubborn people on the planet.
I’m not that deep into horoscopes, but I do agree with a lot of the personality traits. I am very sensitive to a lot of things and I wear my emotions very clearly. I’m really bad at hiding them. At the same time, I’m really set on my beliefs and opinions and I don’t like to be told that I’m wrong.
My choice for the 2nd edition of Unduplicated’s Hump Day posts is actually a user here at Tumblr. I personally asked him if it was okay (because I didn’t want to be a creeper) and he agreed. It helps that we follow each other here, so for right now, I felt it was best to do a person I mutually follow.
In any case, what can one say about this guy besides the fact he’s ripped beyond belief (and we all know how much I enjoy that)?
Well, he’s very nice and quite friendly, I’ll give him that. :D
Also, he’s got quite some enticing posts that would deem NSFW, but are quite enjoyable to those who like their men like I do. I’m still fanning myself from his teaser video. I kinda feel like a whore watching it (especially more than once), but hell…he’s giving us some fan service and you might as well enjoy it.
(Much appreciation and thanks to him for giving me the go-ahead to posting him as a choice for this week.)
(On occasion, I’ll reveal a fact about myself to you all, the Tumblr masses. It’ll keep things interesting.)
Every Wednesday, I intern for a pop culture news website called Uinterview. For the most part, I glance over the site for spelling and grammatical errors, comment on some articles, post a couple onto my own Facebook, and overall promote the site. On occasion, I write TV reviews and I even wrote a rant entry about the lack of black presence on major network channels.
Actually, my next review will be on the new Full Metal Alchemist movie that I had no idea was coming out in theaters. As I haven’t really been up to date with Anime (as I had started to lose interest), this should be quite an experience.
I’m actually going to go see it with this chick I recently met when I went out one night surrounded by a bunch of Gaysians that I was too shy to talk to because…well, I still haven’t gotten over that phase yet.
EDIT: As of April 20th, 2012, I have resigned from this internship.
The Hypocrisy: Asian Music As Told By A Black Guy | Episode 2.1
It’s that time once again to talk about Asian music. Since over a month has passed, we have A LOT to discuss, especially in the world of Top Diva Kumi Koda. Let’s get the basic stuff out of the way first, shall we?
+ NEW RELEASES OVER THE LAST MONTH! Between the first episode of 2nd Edition of The Hypocrisy and now, no one has really released anything aside from Crystal Kay back on December 14th. She released the single Superman, a very nice comeback song after such a long hiatus.
Actually…just a couple of weeks ago, I actually MET Crystal Kay herself. IN THE FLESH. Pretty awesome stuff.
Coming up in the next week is Kuu’s new album, Japonesque! I’ll get into EVERYTHING Kuu in just a moment.
+ WHAT’S DUE OUT IN FEBRUARY? February is going to be a month of albums (thus far).
I had previously reported that a rumored album was due out on February 15th for the flawless Meisa Kuroki…and that rumor is now officially true. The album, called Unlocked, will be released on that very day, including One More Drama, Wired Life (and its B-side, interestingly enough), and Woman’s Worth / Breeze Out. To see the rest of the tracklist, check it out here.
Do As Infinity will also be releasing a new album on Leap Year Day (February 29th) called Time Machine. The tracklist has yet to be confirmed, but it will certainly include their previous 3 singles, Tasogare, Chikai, and Ariadne no Ito, as well as a new song called Koi Uta, which will be used in an upcoming movie.
Also, Ayaka (who has been on a hiatus due to her illness) will be making her return to music with her newest album, The Beginning, which is due out on February 1st. There were no leading singles from the album and this is her first album under her independent label, so please support this talented woman. Check out the tracklist here.
Not much else is due out across the board next month, but of course, I’ll be checking up on everything CONSTANTLY.
+ …AND NOW, FOR KUU! Kumi Koda, the Top Diva and probably THE hardest working woman at Avex right now has been QUITE busy.
For those of you who don’t know, her new album, Japonesque, is due to be released NEXT TUESDAY!!! This album is her biggest endeavor yet.
Firstly, the date was pushed up from sometime in February to January 25th.
Secondly, this album has NINETEEN TRACKS.
Yes, you read correctly. NINETEEN.
Two of the tracks are, of course, the introduction and interlude. 6 of the tracks are from her 3 previously released singles, 4 Times (which includes Poppin’ Love Cocktail, KO-SO-KO-SO, In The Air, and a newly done V.I.P. featuring T-Pain…yes, THAT T-Pain), Ai wo Tomenaide, and Love Me Back. An acoustic version of the B-side to Ai wo Tomenaide, You Are Not Alone, is also included amongst the 17 original tracks. There is even a duet with Omarion (who randomly came out of obscurity) in this album!
…and as you can see from this track list, Kuu has pulled a Kingdom and made a PV for EVERY. SINGLE. SONG. ON. THIS. ALBUM.
The Top Diva does it again as always. <3
Now, the reason Kuu has her own section in this episode of The Hypocrisy is for 2 reasons.
Reason 1: SHE GOT MARRIED!
Kumi Koda is now off the market and married to BACK-ON's KENJI03, who is quite a looker, if you ask me. If you want to see her husband, check out this link and fast forward to Poppin’ Love Cocktail. TEEDA, the guy featured on this song is from her husband’s band. Her husband is in this live version doing the background vocals. He is wearing the red fitted cap, playing the guitar shirtless.
Yeah, her husband’s fucking cute.
Reason 2: SHE IS PREGNANT!
I guess two beautiful people can’t keep their hands off each other for long, because Kuu has announced that she is already 2 months along in her pregnancy. The reason that it was announced so early was because a friend of hers couldn’t keep her damn mouth shut as soon as Kuu found out after her flawless perfomance at the MAMAs (the M-Net Asian Music Awards), so Kuu just let the cat out of the bag herself. She felt there was no use denying it and announced the news on her website (and at a concert abroad).
Due to her pregnancy, however, Kuu will be ceasing any activity throughout the rest of this year, meaning there will be no subsequent tour for Japonesque or any summer singles. It was announced, however, that she will hold a comeback concert on her birthday in mid-November (which, by then, she will have already had the kid).
In any case, as much as I hate to see Kuu take a hiatus (because Hikki is on hiatus right now and I’m losing my mind about it still), the woman does deserve a break. This is Kuu’s TENTH album since she debuted in 2000 and the woman has not slowed down since 2005. 3 to 4 singles a year, a new album every year…Kuu has worked hard enough to retire at this point. Luckily for us Top Diva fans, she has also told people that she will NOT retire from music after she has her child, so you can’t keep her down just yet.
…and so, that is all the news I have for you all this week. This was a very Kuu-oriented post, but as I said, she’s been the busiest of everyone recently, especially with all of the recent announcements surrounding her.
I hope to have some amazing videos to show you from Japonesque in next week’s post as they will definitely start to leak.
Dashboard Confessionals -- Episode 2.1 | I'm a bit of a sexaholic.
It has become clear to me that since I lost my virginity at 16, I’ve had sex on my mind WAY too often. In fact, I have sex on my mind as I write this…and am trying to stay away from looking on Tumblr porn. XD
A friend of mine once said that once you have sex, you start to want it like a crackhead in need of a fix. I have believed that to be true ever since she uttered those infamous words to our still-virgin friend. In fact, amongst my closest group of friends, I’m the one with the most sexual experience. My experience with sex is so bad that I can’t even play “Never Have I Ever…” without having to drink more than once in a round. However, since I’m also a bit of a drunk, I don’t mind THAT much. I just hate to lose.
How and why did I become sexually experienced?
The how, I would blame on the fact that I do a lot of online hookups. I am REALLY shy about approaching guys in person (as I’ve mentioned before), but I’m actually a LOT better at it online because I can be a lot more aggressive than I usually am (which is not at all). I’ve actually been quite successful at it and even landed a few frequent sex friends. One of those frequenters was actually quite a deviant and we’ve had a number of interesting encounters. I don’t really want to get into many details, but I will say that my sex life died after he got into a committed and monogamous relationship.
The why…well, it was because I was kind of a rebel when I finally started having sex. The rebel hasn’t died in me since then. It’s not that I enjoy being promiscuous (and I don’t, really. I did have a sex friend in Philadelphia for 3 and a half years and we were pretty exclusive for about half of that time). I just really enjoy the feeling, the intensity, the rush…sex to me is a liberating feeling. You get into this moment of euphoria and you just can’t help but feel like your whole body is on a high when you reach that climactic moment.
My experimentation into sex has always been due to my curiosity. As a single gay guy, I’m going to want to try a little bit of everything that I will feel comfortable with doing. Of course, there are a lot of things I won’t do.
I have never done poppers, because inhaling anything doesn’t sit well with me. I have never done drugs, but I will admit to a lot of drunk sex (mostly with my former sex friend in Philadelphia). I find the idea of unprotected sex to be very gross if it’s with a guy I barely know or trust (and that list is non-existent). I don’t find some fetishes to be a turn on. BDSM weirds me out.
However, while confessing myself to be a sexaholic, I haven’t had any in 2 months. I also am not stressing it that much (but I do get the urge almost daily). Maybe I’m just getting older and am just satisfied with masturbating.
Truth is though…I am not satisfied with that. I need to get laid. BADLY.
With the Sunday and Saturday changes, I decided to update all of you on what to expect in Unduplicated every week. I more or less copy/pasted the original one and made a few edits.
SUNDAY | Just Another Ranting Sunday On Sundays, I will rant about something that I feel deeply about, whether it be about love or gay rights or just me bitching about something that pisses me off.
MONDAY | Dashboard Confessionals Every Monday, I will do something called “Dashboard Confessionals” (the name is an inside joke between some close friends of mine). In these posts, I will admit to something I didn’t want to talk about, but feel that it’s high time for me to accept.
TUESDAY | The Hypocrisy: Asian Music As Told By A Black Guy I’m a big Asian music fan, more so J-Pop than K-Pop. I love keeping up with new releases, new music videos, and all sorts of epicness. For a while, on my Facebook, I would post a news-type blog about some new releases of some of my favorite artists. I want to restart that again here.
WEDNESDAY | Hump Day Since I want to be a bit more open to be somewhat perverted, I’ll either post or reblog a picture of some guy that…I’d hump. Why the hell not use the double entendre of Wednesday being called “Hump Day”?
THURSDAY | Thirsty Thursday Thirsty Thursday is a term that was used a lot in college as sort of a “pregame” to weekend drinking…by drinking a day early. Since I LOVE to explore the city for new places to get drunk in, I’m going to post a review of a bar I’ve gone to and loved (or absolutely hated).
FRIDAY | PARTYIN’, PARTYIN’, YEAH! You see a Rebecca Black lyric and you wonder…”Is he going to be talking about drinking two days in a row?!?” No, actually. I’m going to be posting a YouTube video of something I found hilarious (see what I did there?!?). I scour YouTube pretty often, so I thought this would be great.
SATURDAY | Can’t Get You Out Of My Head Saturdays will be dedicated to the one song I can’t get out of my head that week. It won’t just be recent songs, but old songs will be included in the mix. It’ll be Japanese, English, Korean…whatever just happens to be in my head at the time. With that, it could also be limited to the day of the post.
Just Another Ranting Sunday - Episode 2.1 | Asians are so picky.
PRELUDE Now before I get started, I KNOW I shouldn’t have much of a right to be saying things like this because I am not Asian myself. I know I shouldn’t be this vocal about it and it might seem like a bitter tirade of ignorance to some, but being around many Asian people (and my confession at being a self-loathing rice queen), I have noticed this as a trend.
With that said, keep an open mind as I go a bit hard on my thoughts on this topic.
Okay, can someone just explain to me why Asians are just the pickiest when it comes to dating?
I mean, yes, they’re limited in who they can date because they don’t want to bring “shame to the family” and all of that nonsense (and that’s exactly what it is - NONSENSE, but I’ll get to that), but what about those that are already breaking the mold by being atypical, such as gays and adoptees? What’s their reasoning behind their limitations?
In my experience, I’ve noticed that Asian girls have all of these high specifications in what they’re looking for in a man and it always seems to include financial stability, intelligence, and looks. (Straight) Asian guys want a model-like Asian girl with all sorts of chavinistic specifications that would make a feminist cringe at the thought of their ideals.
…and don’t even get me STARTED on Gaysians. Pretty much add all the requirements of Asian girls plus even MORE superficial nonsense, and you pretty much have the makings of a list that should just be called “no way in hell of landing a boyfriend, so why even bother making a list of what you want?”
I look at my Asian female friends and some of them are just…FLAWLESS. Like, these women are some of the most gorgeous people I’ve ever met and yet they don’t have a boyfriend and they’re always bitching about it. It doesn’t make sense to me until they start talking about what they’re looking for. From there, it makes sense why they’re single.
It goes the same way with the guys. I know some guys I would LOVE to convert (LOL) and yet, they don’t have a girlfriend. Ask them about the requirements? Same shit.
A bunch of idiocy, if you ask me.
With dating in general, some people tend to blame their past dating experiences and that person just not being [insert fickle problem here] enough for them to be interested. There also becomes this need to put a huge weight on people’s shoulders during the courtship process because they want to be impressed by their love interest and that person does not want to dissapoint them. Because of that, there becomes an even bigger issue of feeling like you’ve tried too hard for nothing and you blame that other person for not welcoming their ability to try.
However, a relationship is a 50/50 deal. You can’t receive if you don’t give. People tend to forget that and I think that’s why I find my Asian friends have such a huge difficulty in dating. They’re not thinking 50/50. They’re thinking more about their self-gain in the relationship. The girls are concerned about how much affection the guy gives them, romance or even monetarily speaking, while the guys are concerned about how submissive a girl will be towards them so they can do their own thing without a problem.
The other dilemma I’ve noticed is that even if they do date Asians exclusively, they still limit themselves on race. If he/she is Vietnamese (for example), they have to date someone who is Vietnamese because that’s what their family wants.
What I say to that is this: FUCK WHAT YOUR FAMILY WANTS.
If you’re going to stress yourself over what your family wants from you, you’re going to miss out on a lot in life, especially if you find the right person that you feel strongly about. While I admire closeness amongst family (as I do not have that with my own family), I do not admire the limitations that it causes BECAUSE you don’t want to dishonor your family in any way. I find that a bit lonely.
I mean, why should one limit who they love because it’s dictated? Shouldn’t a family be more loving and supportive than having your elders act as dictators of your life? For me as a gay man, I was lucky enough to have my mom support me when I came out. However, for those who aren’t so lucky, are you going to continue to live your life with your parents constantly trying to pair you with someone you can’t love?
I also find it ridiculous that if Asian parents are “progressive” in their thoughts (i.e.: they don’t have an iron fist about their children’s love lives), why is it that only white people are acceptable if they are able to go outside of their race/ethnicity? Is that some sort of status symbol in the Asian community? A white person is exactly the kind of thing you can show off to your friends and family because they’re seen as “upstanding people in society.” That idea really grosses me out.
I mean, there are upstanding people in every race (despite popular belief to the contrary, but you can thank the media for that). So, why date white people? Who made this the standard? It’s kind of a mystery to me how this came to be.
With all of that said, I feel that Asians should open their minds a bit more to everyone. There are good looking people of every race and ethnicity. There are people who are genuinely nice and will give you the time of day if you let them. Money should not buy love and as soon as we learn that, we’ll be able to have a healthy relationship with another. If only we opened ourselves up more, we’ll be able to find that special someone.
So, my proposal to the Asian nation is this: Date a girl who’s a bit on the heavy side, boys. Date a guy who’s under 5’9”, girls. Gaysians, stop acting like divas and let yourself be a little vunerable.
Do something different in your love life and you might find a surprise: the love you’ve always wanted.
Due to the fact I’m still without my pictures to upload in HQ for you guys, I’m going to change Sunday’s posts to something called “Just Another Ranting Sunday,” where I rant about something that I feel deeply about. Unlike Dashboard Confessionals, where I confess a secret or a little known fact about me, Just Another Ranting Sunday will be actually deal with a topic, whether it be about love or gay rights or just me bitching about something that pisses me off.
I’ve been ranting a lot lately on Facebook, so I feel like I should move of them some here too.
Saturday’s posts (which hadn’t been decided on at the time I decided to change it) will be called “Can’t Get You Out Of My Head.” This will be dedicated to the one song I can’t get out of my head that week. It won’t just be recent songs. It’ll be old songs too. It’ll be Japanese, English, Korean…whatever just happens to be in my head at the time.
I hope you like the return and I DO accept questions and fanmail and all that insanity. I’d love to hear from y’all. :D
Yeah…so, about the current situation with my old hard drive. I gave it to another friend who is giving it to his friend to figure out if he can do it.
This really is taking a while. I really want to go back to updating. D:
On the plus side, I’ve decided to start following some people, though there was a LOT of hesitation on me clicking the “Follow” button, because I don’t want to seem like a friggin creeper. However, I saw a Jenna Marbles video yesterday about the fact that it’s okay to be a creeper, because that’s just how the Internet works and now I don’t feel so bad.
Anyway, hi, new guys I started following (and those who decided to follow me despite the fact that I haven’t really updated in ages). You’ll get more inside my head at some point in time with updates here, but…I would like my pictures back to keep the Sunday thing going.
I know I said I’d be coming back today, but some other problems came up with getting all of my pictures off of my old hard drive and since Sunday’s theme was dedicated to pictures, I can’t do what I was planning as scheduled.
Because of that, Unduplicated will be on an even longer hiatus. I shall return sometime next month/next year.
I dropped my laptop off with a friend of mine to fix. He’s charging far less than these Best Buy mofos to replace my hard drive, transfer my data onto the new hard drive, AND is upgrading me to Windows 7 (my laptop ran Vista). I’ll be getting it back next week, so it’ll be another week without any updates to Unduplicated.
So, during my weekend in DC, my laptop stopped booting entirely. I thought putting in the disc with the OS would help in making my laptop functional again. Sadly, this is not the case and my laptop is more or less kaput.
Due to this unforseen circumstance, I may not be able to post for a while.
Sadly for me, I can’t afford a new laptop on my own…
To only have the daily posts fill up space here at Unduplicated would be quite lame, so I’m going to try and have random outbursts here too, like favorite quotes (whether self made or quoted by other people, celebrities or otherwise) and a random thought or two.
I want to do my best to not make this one of THOSE types of Tumblr blogs full of reblogged images and .gifs, but I don’t want to bore you guys with only these posts.
While I have you, please support Unduplicated by sharing it with your followers and those that you follow if they have any interest at all. I really want to make this blog a lot more successful than my previous Tumblr endeavor.
LOCATION: 515 3rd Avenue (between 34th and 35th Streets) NEAREST TRAIN STATION: 6 - 33rd Street SCENE: College students COST: $$ ATMOSPHERE: *** OVERALL: **
I first went to this bar in September with a friend of mine, her sorority sister, the sorority sister’s boyfriend (in a fraternity), and two other friends of my friend. It was very nice when I walked in. Looks like any other bar in Manhattan, but little did I know at that point that Murray Hill was a big spot for college students to hang out and drink on the weekends (what colleges are even NEAR Murray Hill…oh yeah, Baruch College).
Now, while the environment is full of college students (of which I am no longer of that age, though I only received my bachelor’s degree last May), it was actually a rather fun one. There was even space in the bar to dance and just have a good time. I love to dance if I’m in the right environment, so I really enjoyed myself in that department. Everyone at the bar just looked like they were there to have a great time and that’s the sort of atmosphere that makes me smile and enjoy myself.
However, when it comes down to drinks, their prices were INSANE. Since my drink of choice is a Long Island Iced Tea and I know it’s already expensive, I usually ask the bartenders how much it would cost to purchase one. My jaw hit the floor when the bartender responded, “17 dollars.” I immediately turned around and walked away. My alcoholic boner shrunk and I was upset that I couldn’t enjoy an LI without having to put out 1/4 of my paycheck to really feel the effects.
I actually ended up going a second time about a month later with that same friend for her birthday, gave in, and bought the Long Island. It was actually pretty strong and just MAY have been worth my 17 dollars. “MAY HAVE BEEN” being the key words here.
Aside from the expensive drinks, I had a decent experience. While I would suggest pregaming at a far cheaper bar (and trust me, they’re around in Manhattan if you look hard enough), this is a not a bad pitstop for people who are just looking to bar hop up and down 3rd Avenue. Just make sure you’ve budgeted properly if you’re actually going to shell out 17 dollars to drink yourself silly.
It’s Thursday and that means that I’m feeling a bit parched to drink…or at leasts talk about places I’ve been to to drink.
Since this is going to be my first Thirsty Thursday post, I thought I should let you in on how this is going to work.
Besides the name of the place and where it’s located, I will name the closest train and stop, since I take public transportation EVERYWHERE in pretty much every city I go to (because I don’t drive, besides the fact that I’m drinking).
I will also rate cost of drinks. In terms of cost, for every dollar sign you see, it will signify a 10 dollar increment (though not extremely accurate).
Now, in terms of how I rate costs, I do it by the most expensive drink at the bar: a Long Island Iced Tea. Since that is my drink of choice at just about EVERY bar I go to, I usually rate bars by that. However, since that would be a very biased decision on my part, I also rate on a star system for the atmosphere of the people at the bar and overall experience. The star system will go as follows:
(no stars) - No words for this place. * - Very lackluster. ** - It was decent. *** - Wouldn’t mind coming again. **** - This place is REALLY quite nice. ***** - MY SPOT FOR LIFE!
You’ll also notice a spot for “scene”. By scene, I mean the kind of people you’ll see at these bars I discuss. While I am gay, I don’t go to just gay bars/clubs. In fact, I’d much rather be at a chill straight bar than an obnoxious gay bar. I will not just reference the scene of the place by sexuality, but also by race or age demographics.
Since I do travel out of NYC often, I won’t limit myself to just bars in NYC. I used to go to school in Philadelphia, so I visit pretty frequently. I am actually going on a trip to DC this coming weekend and I am also planning trips to Atlantic City as well as Miami (and possibly California) for next year, so look forward to future Thirsty Thursday posts.
…and with that, look for today’s Thirsty Thursday post!
Yes, it is finally Wednesday and it means it’s time to unzip your flies, grab your dick, and double click!
…and hell yes, I went there! :D
My first Hump Day choice is, of course, one of my celebrity crushes: Tae Yang!!
What can you say about Youngbae Dong (his real name)?
I mean, the dude is 2 years younger than me and is also a fellow May baby/Taurus, so I’ve got automatic Taurean love for this guy. On a serious note though, he’s just absolutely flawless. He’s got dance moves like no one’s business. His body is just…UNF. He has the cutest smile on the planet. Also, anyone who has every nerdy Yu-Gi-Oh!/Magic card playing Asian in your college’s student center lounge playing two of your hit songs (Where U At and Wedding Dress) from your full debut album (Solar) almost 5 times a day must have a major impact.
If you don’t believe me, watch for yourself. Here’s a link to the video that made me fall in love with the boy, Prayer. It was the chest heave and his shirtless glory that made me melt into a puddle of goo. I can’t even watch this video right now, because then I would have wet dreams. <3
Enjoy my 1st choice for Hump Day. Maybe next week won’t be a celebrity…but let’s see how I’m feeling.
The Hypocrisy: Asian Music As Told By A Black Guy | Episode 1.1
For those of you that followed this on my Facebook, welcome back to The Hypocrisy, my moment to be a complete J-Pop stan and discuss what’s going down in the J-Pop world. We’re gonna do things a bit differently. While I will probably discuss what’s going on with all of my personal favorite J-Pop singers (because I don’t know too much about what’s going on beyond that - and I’m a horrid person for doing so), I will try my best to see if there’s anything extremely intriguing going on beyond them if they pique my interest.
+ NEW RELEASES THIS WEEK! It looks like the J-Pop world has been VERY busy since last week with releases by pretty much every single Avex artist on the label!
Last week (November 30th) saw the release of the Queen of Live, THE Top Diva, Miss Kumi Koda, releasing her new single, Love Me Back. The video is, of course, hot as all hell and this ho is lookin’ FIERCE. Kuu does it once again with a beat like something out of a mystery and dance moves like only a Top Diva can pull off.
Also, a very intriguing source seems to point to a new album from Kuu early next year (as she pretty much releases a new album every first quarter of the new year). The album has yet to be 100% confirmed for a date, but she’s been known to release an album between January and March of every year and go on tour right after.
Last week was also the release of flawless dancer/singer, Daichi Miura's new album, D.M. (which, despite the fact that it’s his initials, means for Daichi a “‘direct message’ to the listener’s body and soul, all conveyed through the power of ‘dance and music’”). Ignore his mug and appreciate his intense skills. He gave Chris Brown a run for his money, after all.
Onto this week!
The legendary Hip-Pop singer, Namie Amuro releases yet another new single (after just releasing Naked / Fight Together / Tempest 5 months ago and a collaboration album 3 months before that), Sit! Stay! Wait! Down! / Love Story. The picture you see above? The cover of her new single.
Yes, there is a huge dog with her. I’m sure this dog is taller than Namie. XD
Anyway, Goddess Amuro delivers with a hot beat for Sit! Stay! Wait! Down! and another ballad with Love Story. Love Story is also the only song on this double A-side with a PV, reminiscent of Baby Don’t Cry from back in 2007. The single also includes two other songs, one of which has been recently featured in a commercial for Kose, a makeup company.
…and it looks like she will also be releasing an album after TWO YEARS since her previous album, Past < Future.
Also releasing a new single this week, BoA! Yes, BoA will finally be celebrating her 10 year anniversary since her Japanese debut by releasing a new single called Milestone. The PV is up on Avex’s official YouTube channel. Instead of something danceable, she delivers an amazing ballad that only Miss Kwon can deliver with resonance.
If you’ve been wondering where BoA’s been over the last 2 years, she recently celebrated her 10 year anniversary in Korea with an album release, Hurricane Venus. Of course, even after 5 years since her last release in Korea, she still proved her worth in her home country. She was also recently filmed for her Hollywood debut in a dance movie due out next year called Cobu, which will be in 3D (because, of course, EVERYTHING has to be in 3D now). Support BoA next year by going to see it! I know I will!
Yet another release happening this week is Meisa Kuroki, the flawless model, actress, and singer with a new single, Woman’s Worth/ Breeze Out. Both songs have a PV featuring Meisus Christ looking just…God, there are no words for this woman. <3
It’s also confirmed that she’ll be releasing a new album on February 15th (a rumored date, of course), featuring this single as well as her previous two, One More Drama and Wired Life. Later details should arise soon.
Next week? CRYSTAL KAY MAKES A COMEBACK!! More on that in next week’s issue.
+ an-an knows what you like…and what you like is SEX…but who expected this guy?!? For those who don’t know who he is…this is Tadayoshi Okura of Johnny’s group Kanjani-8…a group that I thought whose only good looking member was Ryo Nishikido…and quite possibly Shota Yasuda with abs like THESE.
…but HELLO!!!!!!! WHAT DO WE HAVE HERE?!?
an-an releases a sex issue pretty much bi-annually and for this issue, they picked him. Previous nude posers include Jin Akanishi (YES GOD!), Sho Sakurai (a guy I also ignored until this issue and I happen to own this one), and Hiroki Narimiya (my personal favorite issue), to name a few.
For more lovely photos, I would visit here and get ready to fap. HARD.
+ At least THIS GIRL is coming back! Another singer with a voice that resonates, Ayaka, is making a comeback in the new year! She had announced in October that she’d be making a comeback in 2012. Kouhaku, the annual New Year’s Eve music festival, also announced Ayaka will be appearing on stage for the first time since her hiatus announcement in 2009!!
The singer, who married flawlessly gorgeous actor Hiro Mizushima (and probably killed the dreams of every fangirl and gay fanboy on the planet), had announced her hiatus due to a battle with Graves’ disease. With her condition now stabilized, she’s due to not only come back on Kouhaku, but she’s releasing a new album called “The Beginning" on February 1st of next year!
Looking forward to hearing this woman sing once more. <3
Dashboard Confessionals -- Episode 1.1 | My type of guy.
I hate to admit this sort of thing, because it makes me look mad creeper…but…I am begrudgingly a rice queen.
What is a rice queen?
Basically, I date/like Asian guys. A LOT.
Unfortunately, since I have such insanely low self-esteem and tend to be too shy to talk to ANY guy, I am unable to approach a guy without wanting to pass out from my nerves being shot to death. In fact, I went to this bar that has a gay Asian night once a week and standing there alone, I wanted to DIE. The way I handle my attraction for all boys yellow is being cynical about it and making jokes about the fact that Asian guys don’t really date black guys because I’m not pale enough (i.e.: not white) and that I’m too poor to make one even slightly intrigued.
The reason I use “begrudgingly” is because I hate to be seen as one of those guys who obsess over Asian guys to the point that I look like one of those guys who sits in the corner, burning holes in people’s faces from staring too long…or that one old, fat white guy you see at EVERY club (gay, straight, ethnic themed or not) trying to get your number because he has no shame.
I guess some would call that “self-loathing.” I’d probably agree with that term as well. A self-loathing rice queen.
Do I have a body preference when it comes down to my rather specific type? Every human being does.
A guy with a bangin’ body is always a plus, but a guy in pretty decent shape is awesome too. Sometimes, I’ll go for those skinny types, but I don’t want to feel like a hippo in comparison (though I’m not THAT fat or anything) or like I’ll break them in half while we’re having sex. That would totally suck.
So…what would I consider my ideal guy?
Well, for starters, Peter Le and Guy Tang are sexy as fuck (their sites are NSFW, but I’ll link y’all anyway). If these two came to my house at this moment, a threeway would happen and I’d probably be missing for the next 2-3 months. I’m moreso into Peter Le than Guy Tang. The latter has an insane fobby lisp that just makes me want to LOL when he tries to be sexy. The former…THERE ARE NO FLAWS.
Everyone that knows me personally KNOWS that I’m in love with Tae Yang. Besides the body (UNF UNF!), he’s got insane swag, and has the cutest smile I’ve ever seen. It’s just too cute. <3
I also would date Justin Chon. He’s so fucking weird and I love that. I’m a weirdo too, so I’d have to date someone who’s equally as oddball as me. I feel like he’d be someone I could quote stupid shit with and not really give a fuck who stared at us. He seems like a lot of fun.
More so than a body, I just love a guy with personality. Gaysians here in New York City tend to be so caught up in appearances, high fashion, and snarkiness that it’s almost impossible to find those rare guys who have fun personalities and just enjoy life as it is. It’s because of this that I’m more likely to flirt with straight guys than gay ones…but that’s a story for another time.
So, now that I’ve written this rant that has made me feel disgusted about myself the entire time because it seems I have fetishized Asian guys to the point that NONE WILL TALK TO ME EVER AFTER THIS SHIT, I have now permitted myself to follow Tumblr blogs featuring shirtless Asian guys because I now have no shame in my life.
Yep. That was the whole point of writing this. My excuse at being a pervert.